Monday, June 6, 2011

This too shall pass

I have heard it a lot lately, "oh you are going to have your hands full" in response to my rather large belly and the crazy kid running around at my feet. It amazes me the freedom people feel in speaking their "truth" to you when it comes to opinions on children. I honestly believe that a good number of people really enjoy fear mongering expectant parents.  I can not for the life me figure out why.

Before EJ was born I was told I would never sleep again. That I should enjoy quiet because it's over soon. The array of other personal comments and opinions that was launched at me was mind boggling. I didn't  understand it then and still don't today. Primarily because of the obvious. It's not like I can do anything about it now. This baby is coming whether we like it or not. Get over it and get ready is my motto. I get excited. Some days I am scared but that's normal. Trust me I do not need you spilling your guts to me about how much work I am about to be in for. I will learn soon enough on my own.

And guess what there were sleepless nights, there were days when I wanted to pull every strand of my hair out and scream. I have been exhausted, frustrated and overwhelmed but you know what?
It's worth it. And it passed. 
I love my kid so much it hurts. I love being his momma and even when he makes me crazy I can not imagine my life without him. I love my husband more each and every day because he loves our kid so much. We are committed to each other in a different way because we know and embrace the reality that we are the foundation of our family. This family of ours is so important to us that we work hard daily to make sure that there are no cracks in that foundation. That kind of commitment is amazing. That kind of love is worth it even if it means a few sleepless nights.

I don't doubt that two small children may make head spin some days and I will wonder if their is enough of me to go around. I will worry about dumb things and life will have its ups and downs. Yes, my hands are going to be full but they are big enough to juggle it. And my heart is going to grow that July day even bigger and life without my two little boys will be totally unimaginable.

So for me I try very hard to never say anything negative to new parents or parents-to-be. I know they hear enough junk and I always speak my truth which is "Just remember this too shall pass and focus on the reality that it is so worth it. There is nothing like having your own family, absolutely nothing like it".


Ali said...

I remember when I was pregnant with my first boy, the nurse at the OB office said, "oh my. You are going to have your hands full. Little boys are crazy until they get into middle school." Um, thanks.

Life with 2, and 2 boys for that matter, can be overwhelming. But anything as big as brining a new life into the world is overwhelming? Sleeplessness is temporary. Tantrusm are temporary. But I will say that it seems your children grow at an even faster rate when there is more than one--and I haven't figured out how to stop it.

I wouldn't change things for the world--I say, when people say to you "oh, you'll have your hands full!" you should reply with "more importantly, I'll have my HEART full."

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Sara said...

I got so much of that crap when I was pregnant that now whenever I see a pregnant woman or a family with a newborn I say nothing except, "you are in for SO MUCH FUN!"

Hana said...

I like Sara's comment! I can honestly say that I am less tired with 2 than when I was pregnant +1. Everything I ever worried about turned into nothing-to-worry-about. So there. Makes me wonder what I did all day before!